If you let them, they will hold you hostage. Who are "they"?
- Your expectations.
- Their expectations.
- Your expectations of their expectations.
So, Rule #1: just be yourselves, and let your kids be your kids. I know that's your M.O., but there's this fear that we have to conform because we are in the United States of Christendom, and By God We had better Get It Right. Or Else.
I can't tell you what to do or not to do; that's between you and God. But I will say, "be true to God and yourselves." The Church needs leaders who aren't afraid of the people they're supposed to lead.
Actually, I guess that's rule #2. Rule #1 is let God be God.
Rule #3? Have fun. Like, seriously.
Rule #4: You need to come up with your own. Mine is hugs. Lots and lots of hugs.
(Something I wish I had thought to add: Most pastor's wives are really pastors, just without the title.)