- He spoke with a woman,
- alone,
- a yucky old Samaritan at that,
- and he asked her to get him a drink.
But...
The thing that struck me today was how he failed a major, modern, evangelical test (and abysmally flunked the equivalent fundamentalist test). What did he do about the fact she had gone through five husbands, and was living with yet another man?
- Admonish her to get busy with sacrifices?
- Reject her?
- Give her a tract?
- Wave a sign in her face and scream that she was going to Hell?
- Ask what church she was a member of so he could berate her pastor for letting her stay?
- Stone her?
- Offer her living water, grace, forgiveness, eternal life?
Oh, wait, I'm not. And by the end of the story, because her testimony brought them to Jesus, "many more became believers." This suggests that she had become a believer as well.
As far as we know, he never demanded she "reconcile with" (remarry) her first husband. [1]
He didn't take her through the Roman Road (Paul had yet to write that letter, but do you really think that would stop Jesus?).
No tracts.
Especially no John T. Chick tracts. Thank God.
He didn't make her say a prayer. He didn't even talk directly about repentance, just offered her grace.
We have no record of why she had five husbands. We have no record of who did what. Was she abused? An abuser? Was she cheating on them? Was she frigid? Was she barren? Was she mean? Was she boring? Did someone more enticing come along? Someone richer? Than who, her or her husband?
We have no idea. Jesus didn't go there.
So why do we?
Yes, I know God hates divorce. Yes, we should take marriage seriously. But it's not up to us to judge people or to demand (for instance) that a woman "reconcile" with an abuser and stay with him. You can proof text this one easily, but I guarantee you I can find a proof text to put you in the same boat with a divorcee, no matter how you live. If you consider context, consider Scripture as a whole, consider how Jesus dealt with people...
It turns out Jesus didn't fail the tests. The test givers failed.
Think about that long and hard before you try to beat someone into submission with a Scripture.
And think about another Scripture while you do. "Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." (Mt 7/1-2, NIV)
Grace. It's a good way to live.
NOTES
[1] some people will argue that the words husband here means "gods" because there is a Hebrew variant of Baal that can be translated either "god' or "husband". While I am not technically a Bible scholar I have studied quite a bit and been taught by some of the best. The word that can be translated either way is limited to a very few passages in the Old Testament. It does not appear in the New testament at all. Only one word for Baal appears in the new Testament, in Romans, and it clearly refers to the false god Baal. The word used here for "husband" is a word used for a human husband (it is translated "man", not "god") throughout the NT. I have no idea where the idea came from that Jesus meant gods here; it seems at best poor scholarship.